I think you did fine with this conversation. You do have to weigh the advice with what your guidance is telling you about how to respond in your situation. You clearly needed to know the answer to that question and you asked it in a cool and mature way. Your H responded in a way that left you feeling better.
No matter how this conversation goes-- straightforward and cool has gotten you this far, along with faith. So why not just keep trekking that road? Maybe it's worth writing down your goals for the conversation-- not outcomes but how you want to handle it. Just as a friendly reminder to yourself.
I read this about detachment the other night: Detachment means doing the right thing, for its own sake, because it needs to be done, without worrying about success or failure. We can't make it a synonym for indifference, carelessness or passivity. Nor can we use it as an excuse not to deal with fundamental issues. (this is the condensed version).
Seems to me like you're well on the way to that definition. I too have been really introspective the past few days... must be something in the air right now. (Actually, for me it's something in the hormones--I've figured out my pattern.)
