After the initial 'is there anything you want to talk to me about yet' one he sent about a month after he left there have only been a couple of texts (to ask for specific things he needed).

The only time I've seen him was at the industry event we both went to a couple of months ago. No chat or even saying hello there.

I believe the A is in full force.

So we're coming up to a year since he left. Why no mention of D from him? Why is he still paying the mortgage (the house is entirely mine legally)?

I know it's mind reading to try and guess, and I try and stop myself as much as I can from doing that. But I'm honestly completely mystified. What on earth is going on?


Me: 48, XH: 42
T: 18 years, M: 15 years

EA/PA 1: 6/2012
EA/PA 2: from autumn 2012-present

BD: 5/2013
ILYBNILWY BD & left: 10/2015

OW conceived: 8/2016
Born: 4/2017

H filed: 7/2017
D final: 28/12/2017