Episode 3 - The Divorce Awakens

[qt4x11]

So let me get this straight - it's perfectly alright to endlessly perseverate over 'how can I get my wife back OMG I have to detach!' and write about it all day on these boards for YEARS. It's ok to go 3 years (!) 'working on yourself' with no sex. Driving ourselves crazy, second guessing everything we do - turning ourselves NEUROTIC over 'detaching and letting go'. All with the ultimate intention of 'reconciliation'.

But the minute I mention even the possibility of going out for coffee with someone who could just be a friend in the long run ... then I'm making a huge mistake that could cost me my marriage (which my W is already doing a great job of throwing in the trash).

We can argue about whether I should even go out for coffee w some woman - or 'whether or not I'm willing to do the WORK'. (what work? sobriety? going to 2 therapists every week? detaching? journaling? taking care of my kids? all CHECK). Nothing is going to bring my wife back, so I'm good with getting the 2x4 in this thread.

Great I will if it even happens, like I said - all the 2x4s in this thread are not going to change my wife one bit.