Have to keep making the changes

[ATPeace]

SH first thank you I really cannot thank you enough I mean this I will do the home work thank you for standing next to me on this

My next thread will be more me related and I will answer your questions and I will,watch the ted talks

For now I just have a quick question somethings completely different. My 15 year old son has a messy bedroom he has tidied it a bit but it is not to my wife's level. She has asked and asked him to tidy it and he is basically sticking two fingers up saying it is my room my space I can have it how I like .

He was due to go away the end of the month with a school friend now my W is saying that he cannot go as his room is still not tidy, I can see her,point of view however I have also been more flexible about compromising through the years but how,do I talk to my W about this as I feel she will flair up at me if she does not get her way

Do I back my wife even tho I know how upsetting it will be for my son or do I go against her views and then get nailed for not backing her up

Not sure if I have totally made sense I will read the homework above
Thank you