Pink, Slow down! He has stated that he wants to be friends. He's not ready to commit to a "relationship" w/you right now. You and your xh started out as friends and then the love grew and you married. I hate to say this, but the old marriage is gone and the only way to "possibly" reconcile and get into a more romantic relationship is to start out as friends, i.e., a new relationship needs to begin and then slowly, but surely (hopefully) the love will return and a NEW relationship will ignite and a NEW marriage. (Hopefully)
Bottom line, reconciling is the hardest part of the MLC journey. We get impatient and we want our relationships back like yesterday...it doesn't work that way. They slowly went into MLC and then will slowly exit MLC. Dig deeper for patience and keep things at the friendship level. It could take another (possible) 18-24 months before he feels comfortable in his own skin. Patience, patience and more patience are what is needed now. If you push too hard, it will taken even longer or he could very well walk away and not want a relationship w/you at all.
Pink, you can do this...start out as friends and keep it very simple. No more relationship talks about the future or getting back together for now...friendship is the key and the beginning of any long term relationship.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
