I look forward to hearing your other thoughts. I have often pondered that. I feel like lbs and was. Yes this gives me insight into her world.I see her pain and understand it. This has helped me not be so hard on her.

I imagine her feeling like me and am impressed she is still here. Her reasons are her own, but she has stuck it out. It probably helps that she has mastered detachment!!

R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together