Now pile that reason on top of going through a divorce and learning to readjust your life and living on your own and caring for your kids.
Introducing more complications in an already complicated emotionally draining situation is a recipe for disaster and a relapse.
Do you actually work the program, or are you flying solo on the sobriety?
New woman as an addiction? Maybe addiction is a strong word. But it sure is a band aid, just like the weed. Problem is, when you rip the bandaid of the new woman off (lets face it, it isn't going to work with where you are in life now) it's going to to add more hurt and confusion on top of hurt and confusion.
What feels good now, isn't going to feel so good later. And this woman? Have you thought about her feelings in all this. You still love your wife, you still mention stopping the divorce when you see her. it's pretty selfish to date her right now.
And yes, going on a date shows you aren't serious about this. If in your heart it was truly over, and you did not want to reconcile at all, then I believe in dating before the divorce is final. not everyone does, but YOU would have to be done, not just her.
You just want a band aid for your pain right now. But the band aid is going to hurt you so much more in the long run. And hurt another woman. And has the potential to hurt your sobriety.
