Just checking in. It's been awhile. Was inspired to come back here because an old friend from elementary/middle school popped back up into my life due to that all-too-familiar story. Her husband of a few years pulled a "I just don't think I love you anymore, I don't want to be married, I held back all my feelings and now I have none left, etc. etc." while secretly texting thousands of messages to a "good friend." She is in the angry phase and has moved halfway back across the country to be closer to her family and hometown. Looked through my thread to try and find some inspiring quotes/words of wisdom... holy s**t does that all seem so long ago! Like a different lifetime. I'm glad I have all of the advice from here to fall back on.
I didn't really have much luck with the online dating thing.. went on a lot of dates, none of them went anywhere, but they did make good fodder for an online dating blog that got rave reviews from my FB friends Then a few weeks ago, a friend from my hometown asked me if I might like to be introduced to someone she knew from work who she thought might be a good fit. We've been seeing each other for a few weeks and the difference is amazing compared to XBF. He messages me throughout the day, asks me questions about things (like what I'm up to or what I'm doing that day, apparently those sorts of questions are NORMAL!), and I don't feel afraid to share what I'm thinking of him and vice-versa. It really made me see how closed off and unavailable XBF was, and how I probably was too at the time because I wanted to stay "safe", so that's what I attracted. So, one day at a time. We'll see how things go. I'm excited
Me:30 H:29, no kids T:12, M:4 (when D was final) 12/13: "Don't think I want to be M anymore" 6/14: Separated (I move) 1/15: H filed for D 5/15: D final
Then a few weeks ago, a friend from my hometown asked me if I might like to be introduced to someone she knew from work who she thought might be a good fit. We've been seeing each other for a few weeks and the difference is amazing compared to XBF. He messages me throughout the day, asks me questions about things (like what I'm up to or what I'm doing that day, apparently those sorts of questions are NORMAL!), and I don't feel afraid to share what I'm thinking of him and vice-versa. It really made me see how closed off and unavailable XBF was, and how I probably was too at the time because I wanted to stay "safe", so that's what I attracted. So, one day at a time. We'll see how things go. I'm excited 