She fought it in secret, I guess, but kept me completely in the dark until finally blindsiding me...
This is EXACTLY how I felt and when I was in the pleading/reasoning phase, I argued this exact point w/ my W. "How could you say we worked on it when we simply didn't? You suffered your grievances all by yourself, and made up your mind all by yourself. Don't we deserve a chance to work on this together?"
In my case, my reasoning has ZERO effect because she had already dived head first into an EA. I would've thought that someone who wasn't in an EA/PA would give that some consideration.
FG that seems to be a common theme around here. My W completely shot down that logic and I now know it was bc of the EA and now PA she is involved in. Can't speak to how a WAW reacts to that logic, but maybe they are so far at the end of their rope that they just give up all hope of it being better. My WW was there and used the EA/PA as the spark to set her leaving in motion, as far as I can tell. Maybe the WAW is in the same place but doesn't need a spark to move forward.
JR, I'm catching back up with your sitch after being away for a week. Hang in there brother, here to support you!
Me39 M11 : T13 D9 BD 5/31/16 In House S until 6/21/17 Divorced 10/5/18
