Hawker, adultery is a synonym for infidelity. I prefer it, because it's more blunt.

LT, I thought the English posters might like that. My best friend is English, over the decade I've known him I've started using some English expressions or terms on a regular basis.


Dropoff lasted a whole 5 minutes. She rolled up and told S, "there's Daddy." We got out around the same times, and I walked past her in order to get to S and helped him get out of his seat. She of course asked, "Why are you being so mean?" "How was I being mean?" "Not answering my texts?" Of course, I did answer. Just not in the time frame she desired or expected. But S was in my arms and, not only did he agitate to get down he also started talking and I just listened to him.

She saw the pic I printed at work and said "If I knew yours was so big I would've printed a big one too!" I just told her I didn't really know how to use the color printer at work and didn't want to print more than one pic. (Not really supposed to use it lol) Got him in the car, we were about as close as we've been in months (about a foot or two between us) and spoke about school. She said I should check Osh Kosh for some clothes, and I said ok. She also said something like "just give the pic to his teacher tomorrow, she'll put it up. It's a family lesson I think, I'm having my kids do something similar. You'll see the one of he and I, not that you'll care."

I acknowledge, and walk to my door. Before I can close it, she asks if I saw the pic she sent at the pool while they were there for about an hr after she picked him up. "Yes, I saw it. Did he have fun?" "Yeah. I think, yeah he had fun." Not sure what the pause was, but I just said good I'm glad. She then said, if you could text me tonight that would be great.

No temp check, but the "you won't care" thrown in there about the pic with her/him means something. I'm just not sure what lol. Her continued use of the word "mean" to describe not being her buddy and having chats about S is obnoxious. I just don't see how she could possibly handle a D if she can't go one night w/o freaking out about me not texting about what he was doing. I can handle one at this point, but don't want it.....

I reckon I'm detaching. I looked at her and didn't feel anything. I looked her in the eyes, remained pretty aloof and was the first one to try to leave. The funny thing is, one thing that comes into my mind many nights is about being physical with her again if we get back together. (Not just the act, but being close, smiles, kisses, I love yous, etc) I honestly think I've done an amazing job compartmentalizing how I feel. She's attractive (minus the goofball hair!), and I'd look her up/down if it were possible w/o her seeing. But I don't FEEL anything. I think if she were to do or say something loving, I might melt. Or at least show my cards more than I'd like....


Me: 35 W: 32
S: 4
T: 6 M: 4
Physical Separation official: 5/21
Currently: DR/DBing, Focusing on me and son

Cheating on a good person is like throwing away a diamond and picking up a rock.