Episode 3 - The Divorce Awakens

[MrBond]

I didn't "wait" for my W. I lived life. That doesn't mean that I needed someone else.

"And what do you mean I am 'addicted' to the other woman? That's really a stretch."

Not really. I mean you're addicted to the fix. It makes you feel good, wanted. Going back through your threads, you seem to need quite a bit of validation. You spent years smoking weed and doing things that you say weren't proud of that she had to put up with. And now when she's decided to stand up for herself, you get upset because now you say you've changed and can't see why she won't work on the M. Just because YOU're ready doesn't mean that she is. Everyone has their own timeline.

"Man if you have to wait 3 years for a woman to even talk to you, I don't even know what to say to that."

Exactly because you don't seem to be able to put yourself into your W's shoes. In my case, my W went through a major MLC. Ultimately I knew that whatever decision she made, she had to make and one that wasn't influenced by me.

When we got back together after her fog lifted, what she said helped was that I didn't push her to do anything I wanted. I let her make her own mistakes and didn't have any expectations.

You want to go out with other women because "life's too short", well that's your choice. I'm not sure how you'd be in the long run when a M is supposed to last a lifetime.

Just an opinion.