What would your father do in the situation that you are in? That's a very important question because I find myself acting the same way my father did when my mom had a midlife crisis. Are you going to give up and move on, maybe abandoning your kids and moving to another state? Are you going to fight in court with your wife until complete destruction? Are you going to live parallel lives with your wife as a single? Or are you determined to winning your wife back no matter how long it will take and no matter how much rejection you are going to suffer? You might want to ask yourself those questions now, because everything you do will be based on your answer.