The Fight for Self II

[ForGump]

CT1118-- thanks for all you posted. As I read all your pain, the voice in my head said, "he should let her go." In other words D. But I don't see your W the way you see your W. I see her the way I see my W. We have different situations but your situation is a mirror for me.

You've been at this for about 6 months. I wonder if/when your feelings will shift about giving up on your W. I think it all hurts so much because you haven't given up on her. DB-ing is to not give up.

Also, as I wrote elsewhere, I think NC and ignoring, etc. isn't really good DB-ing. I say that knowing that that's what I try to do some times. I mean you gotta do NC some times to just fcking survive a day emotionally. But good DB-ing is to really not care either way. Treat your W like a good friend. (Right? Still trying to sort this out in my head).