Hi Joe! I can certainly empathize with the changing views since going through this journey. My experience has been the same. I came here when XH filed for divorce in the aftermath of his affairs. I took more than my fair share of blame for his choices, reasoning that problems don't happen in a vacuum and while he made poor choices, I contributed to making him vulnerable to do so. I still feel that way to an extent, and yet, I find myself much less forgiving of those choices now, and am less inclined to want to encourage others to stand with a WW spouse. In my time here, I have met so many others who have remained faithful through much more challenging circumstances, so it's increasingly difficult to excuse such behavior in general. In my case, I ultimately had the option to reconcile, but I never saw real change from XH. He was never sorry, and never took responsibility for his actions. To this day, he paints himself as the victim of our story. I'm not sorry I tried to save my marriage, but I also know it's something I would never do again. I'm not sure that's a bad thing though.
Congrats on the financial progress! It's a great feeling when you start putting the pieces of your life back together.
Do you have big plans for the rest of your summer with the kids?
