Very close to giving up

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Background:
- m and ww in 30s
- s4
- m 11 yrs, t12
- over a year of emotional detachment
-ilybinilwy ~5/16 + request for OM
-individual coaching to connect for one month
- bd 7/16, confirm ea and strongly suspected pa
- mc, ic for both, db coaching for me

Ww refused to stop contact after ea confirmed. Broke many of the db rules over time but have been adhering to them for about a month. She lies about all aspects of the A and says I'm wrong to focus on the OM and we should try to reconnect instead.

She is constantly on her phone and there is plenty of evidence of ongoin correspondence. I have been more aloof about it but sandi2's writings really got me thinking. I'm more driven to not put up with an OM.

I had my third coaching session today and was generally feeling ok. Took our son out for a nice afternoon and when we got back, some friends happened to be over. There was a pile of packages in front of the garage and I needed to move them to get in. (Of course, it's my job to bring them in) One of them is from OM. I'm just shaking and am sick of this abuse.