For me, moving on and starting a new life means letting go of the hope I had that we would be able to work through this. It means not living each day as though my marriage can be saved. It means living each day accepting we are over and will eventually be divorced. It is preparing myself for that. It is not daydreaming about finally travelling together again, or seeing images of us together. It means I need to stop hesitating on giving up, to stop trying to save this. I suppose it is dropping the rope completely.
Hi Mleigh you know I adore you :-) and I have thanked you more than once for the advise and support that you have given me. One thing I've learnt from this amazing forum is to let go. Live my life, care for myself and my lovely daughters. Do I have flash backs of happy times with XW and our family. Yes.. all the time. Is she capable of fulfilling that position.. nope.
So I cherish the memories, thank her for the daughters she helped raise... and I turn away. What happens in 1, 5, or 7 years is not foreseeable. MLC sure as hell wasn't and it came on so fast.
You getting on with your life and happiness is the only thing you can control. You never know what the future holds. I know you will make it a good one for you and your son.
hugs
Irish
M51 XW43 (38 at bd) BD1 MAY 30 2015 BD2 JUNE 25 2015 by text moved out Aug 2 2015 left both Daughters 13 and 15 (now 18-20) Her divorce Final July 26 2016 Last time she saw her kids Aug 2 2015
