Need help. Read DR three times. Very little contact. 3 weeks of 180's. She has noticed but doesn't care. Hasn't mentioned D since after leaving but zero pos signs. What to do?
You may be on moderation now, post in small frequent replies and stay on this thread until you reach 100 posts (for your thread, you can also post on other peoples threads to give support). Especially on this Newcomers forum, where the posting activity is very active, and your posts can quickly fall to the bottom of the page or even several pages down. Keep journaling and asking questions - people will come! Most important - POST!
Get out and Get a Life (GAL). DETACH.
Believe none of what he or she says and half of what he/she does.
Have NO EXPECTATIONS.
Take care of yourself, breathe, eat, sleep, exercise.
Take the parts of this advice that you need and don't worry if I have repeated something that you have already done.
Here are a few links to threads that will help you immensely:
MikeK, there are some great people here to help you. I'm no veteran so i'll leave it to them to get you started, but I will offer that the more details of your situation you provide, the more everyone can help.
Hang in there bud, a lot of good folks here to support you!
Me39 M11 : T13 D9 BD 5/31/16 In House S until 6/21/17 Divorced 10/5/18
Sorry about hijacking your thread. I've been DBing for a while now, although I'm not even sure if it's DB because I usually react emotionally and toss the baby out with the bathwater.
Anyway, my question is this; if you do 360s instead of 180s can you make the process go faster? You know, 3 weeks of 180s or 1.5 weeks of 360s. Would that work?
Sorry about hijacking your thread. I've been DBing for a while now, although I'm not even sure if it's DB because I usually react emotionally and toss the baby out with the bathwater.
Anyway, my question is this; if you do 360s instead of 180s can you make the process go faster? You know, 3 weeks of 180s or 1.5 weeks of 360s. Would that work?
my sitch. waw moved out mid Feb with 2 kids (2 grown). just prior to and definitely after, seemed way more mad at me daily prior to months before moving out. Been Dbing by intuition before I knew what it was. Still broke some major rules though. Basically in the same spot. Texts are short with an occasional dig. Few phonecalls that are always degrading and bringing up past. Few face to face with glares and more past stuff. Says I'm emotionally abusive. We both are. But I certainly curbed the last couple of years. She seems very short tempered and easily offended by others too. Maybe other man??? No evidence. No infidelity by me. She will get really mad over the smallest of things. Just no progress?
