The Fight for Self II

[CT1118]

Thank you all again. Your support is really invaluable.

Sandi - 2 things
1. Above is a whistle emoji. I am wondering what it means? Rather than speculate, thought it better to ask.

2. You said this of your H: "It's not like you've described yourself, b/c he had a terrible time focusing and memorizing. He would not study for tests, etc. It would drive me crazy b/c I could not understand why he wouldn't at least, try to study. It takes him forever to answer a simple question I ask.....but I've never seen him do this with other people. It used to infuriate me. He would not discuss his feelings, nor engage with me about anything that required his expressions of his feelings. Needless to say, I was the complete opposite. So, my emotional needs were not met b/c I needed emotional intimacy. I wanted the intimate pillow talk.

Anyway, it just caught my attention when you said the above about W's turning to affairs in desperation."

That is exactly right.I left all of that out of my description, but I am the same way by nature, but I am trying to better my way through once I learned how difficult it makes me to be around. As you can imaging, me reading about traits of ADHD was like reading a book written about me; then reading the traits of how women respond to men w/ ADHD and having my WW say it was exactly like that for her was devastating. But, all one can do it get up and try again in a way that works.