I would probably move to an apartment nearby and save any move out of the area for after S moves to college.

If you find that living in your own space in the area is not helping you enough, you can always revisit the decision.

I'm sorry. The whole thing [censored].

Me: 44
H: 44
Kids: 20, 16, 16, and 10
Together/Married: 22 years
H announced he was emotionally detached and considering D: 4/4/16
H announced he is going to try to stay and reconnect: 5/1/16