I can certainly relate to your reoccurring longings for your H and the way things were, thats perfectly normal, I experience them ALL the time and I'm Dd...
Quote: Then I think "whatever...he is on his own search...he has to live with his choice..I will not pursue, I will not appear needy.
Yes, he is on his own search to try and "unstick" himself. So, the natural path that is forged is that he seperates physically, then goes away on a vacation and takes time to himself to see where he's at upstairs and in the heart department. This is perfectly normal for a WA to do..its just the way it is. There isn't much you can do except just go on as you are, stick to what your DB C recommended, and if I might add, MIRROR what he is doing with your own actions, so that it APPEARS that you are on your OWN SEARCH...just like he is..
Quote: His evasiveness is his main talent.
Yes, I'm sure he's very good at that..Guess what, YOU can be just as good at that too, when it comes to your interactions with him..
In terms of strategy, I notice that he ALWAYS knows where you're going when you travel, yet he is somewhat "vague" about his whereabouts when HE goes..
If I were you...I would take a little vacation yourself that DOESN'T revolve around your family..could be a long weekend, 3-4 days whatever. When your H returns from his.., I'd suggest that you off the cuff mention to him that an opportunity came up SOCIALLY and you've decided to go on a little getaway for a few days...and of course be evasive with the details..Then when you CC him on the emails to the kids, you of course don't mention anything about it leading up to the trip, because I get the feeling that normally you would...
Again, just a little weekend getaway, (let him draw his own conclusion as to whether you're going BY YOURSELF, or perhaps...NOT..) just to give the impression that YOU NEED YOUR SPACE, TIME AWAY TO THINK..blah, blah..JUST LIKE HE DOES..
