Hi Job, thank you for your input. He is very stuck, and after 3 years, I feel I have moved ahead too far. I didn't sleep much, haven't eaten and feel a bit down. Thankfully I took today off to take S school shopping. Once I take a shower and wash this away, I intend on having a fun day with S, our last before heading back to school!
What I struggle with here is that I don't want to be friends with someone who throws this in my face over and over. Can he stop using this to justify his own bad behavior and bailing out on our marriage? Can he admit that he did some very hurtful things himself? Can he admit that he could have handled our marriage problems a bit differently and healthier? Can he admit that things he did compounded the problem?
I can say I am sorry, I wish I had handled some things differently, I have learned from it and would like to start fresh, with a new foundation of love and commitment to him. Can he say the same? I don't think so.
Because of all of the above, I feel ready to give up, move on and start myself a new life. I am very sad that he is so stuck in his bubble of anger and self pity, but I have long worked my way through that and being I have no idea how long he will take, if ever, I feel ready to move on. He has very self righteous traits, he always has, I don't see him ever being able to do any of the above and that is what I would need to know we even had a chance.
Much love to you guys M
Me 48 H 46 S 11 M 2004 BD 8/13 H moved out 2/15 -live in the present, enjoy the beauty around and within you, explore your new future-
