I believe Mr. Bond may have successfully reconciled w/his spouse.
Here are a few that have had wives jump ship:
Tadpole1025 braveheart TSquare2
Keep in mind, the men in crisis are not a picnic either. You might want to read some of the threads that woman have posted concerning their husbands. You might find some helpful info on them as well. Try not to limit your reading to only to the postings of the men who have had wives walk.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I have been reading your situation in the past hour and I think that you are doing a great job, you seem to be a very stable and patient man just like Irish. I have been in the MLC mess for only 7 months and I don't know how it will look like after 3 years, hopefully we will reconcile. I want to ask you about your wife's childhood, which seems to be affecting most MLCers here and in particular I would like to know if her parents divorced before she turned 15. How that played out and if there is any history of physical or sexual abuse during her childhood.
Cld
Well firstly sorry for the delayed response, as you know this MLC thing moves like a turtle and I discovered there was so much more I could be doing with 'me' and my progress/growth continues .... I will update soon
To answer your question, her parents never divorced, her mother did leave her father for a bit over a year but that was just as wifes MLC was setting in back in 2013 or so.
As far as a abuse, yeah from what I have gathered something most likely happened between her and her brother when she was 14, no details but looking at timelines .. my father passed and BIL was put in prison for child molestation so it appears the dysfunctional family demons were always there though for 20+ years this family appeared to have it together .... till they all came to a boil in 2012-2013.
I am not sure if she is currently dealing with this .. or avoiding as they do I have been pretty NC since Feb.
Hope you all are well I will try to catch up over the upcoming days .. something told me to come in and take a peek for some reason
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
In a word ... BUSY ... I mean I took GAL and pumped it full of steroids
Hows you >??
Like I said .. I am sure I am pst due for an update, I have to read where I left off and go from there, not that much in the sitch world has changed but things for me have ... not that uncommon I suppose with the lightning fast MLC evolution ... ok I made myself laugh
No point wishing that their MLC speeds up. We need the time to heal then forgive
I'm looking forward to your update on you.
Irish
M51 XW43 (38 at bd) BD1 MAY 30 2015 BD2 JUNE 25 2015 by text moved out Aug 2 2015 left both Daughters 13 and 15 (now 18-20) Her divorce Final July 26 2016 Last time she saw her kids Aug 2 2015
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