Don, reading your story I wonder if you really want a R. Sometimes we think we want something but we don't really. I ask because you say that you have found someone but you feel it is impossible due to distance.
People have long distance relationships and move further than that all the time. I moved from Europe to be with WH. He had an affair with OW who lived 3 states away and who has now moved in with WH, away from all of her family. I moved 1000 miles away to live with family (because I had nowhere else to go when WH wanted to separate).
Why is it impossible for you to pursue this? Is it a 10 hour flight or drive?
M 16 yrs, WH62, P54 3 adult blended kids EA 11/13, BD1 6/14 PA fall 14, BD2 2/15 Piecing 2015, BD3 12/15 Separated 4/16 WH moved OW in 5/16 Divorced 6/15/17