I don't know how you decided to doing No Contact but I hope it was carefully considered. I think NC is not in and of itself a solution. It has to be part of a larger approach. If you're trying to detach, it doesn't necessarily mean NC.

I'm fairly new and am learning but thought I'd still offer what I think...

Me: 50, MLC/WW 45
Young kids
Nov 2015: BD1
Apr 2016: BD2
Jan 2017: W filed
Feb 2017: D final