What should I be doing (Working toward D 9)

[Coconut]

Moving out seems like a really good move. It's nice to see you taking steps to make that happen.

I hope, for your sake and the sake of any future partners, that you are in counseling to address your anger issues and your need to control your partner.

You may not believe me, but I don't have an anger problem, except for my WWs laxidazic attitude towards my feelings. In my life, I've only lost my temper twice before all of this, and I was a teenager those two times and were directed at other guys.. I've never gotten angry on a regular basis before, and in fact maybe get angry once or twice a year, I'm pretty laid back and happy most of the time.

My anger at my W has only been witnessed by son once (other than seeing the busted bathroom door and slashed tires) and that was when she busted into my room and started throwing all my stuff around. The episode yesterday was by text.. He obviously sees that we avoid each other, but that's better than seeing bitterness together, but our infrequent interactions in front of son are courteous and I have never talked poorly of her to him and don't refrain from mentioning mom to him when conversing.