Albac - 7 months in. Life goes on.

[hawker]

I would not change your approach if you have seen progress in what you are doing. She just said in my situation the minimal contact would seem appropriate. I think every situation is different. Surfer made a goo point "IMO In terms of NC. I agree this is tricky. I think it's about focusing on sufficiently little contact for them to miss you. I think the point here, in part, is to halt the bad interactions through NC and detach lovingly. Detaching and much less contact allows you to cool off the emotions, not stop loving, cool off. It's not necessarily total NC it's just leave it for a while"
Continue to detach, focus on yourself and go with what works and if it's not working change what you are doing. Stay strong!!!