Albac broken but pushing forward

[Surfer]

Buxom makes a great point. Let whatever is attracting them repeal them. It will eventually. In the meantime just be the best version of you.

IMO In terms of NC. I agree this is tricky. I think it's about focusing on sufficiently little contact for them to miss you. I think the point here, in part, is to halt the bad interactions through NC and detach lovingly. Detaching and much less contact allows you to cool off the emotions, not stop loving, cool off. It's not necessarily total NC it's just leave it for a while. You don't play games, don't do anything really you just remain the kind decent person that you are - the one they fell for - but don't act like a H. Your WS does not want you as a H. You act like a Dad etc but not a H. You can do nice things but you only do nice things if it works for you. Otherwise just politely decline like you would with a nosey neighbour. You will get to a stage where you don't give a cr@p about the histrionics - you become the teenagers parent you are loving yet detached from the games. You still love the teenager but you just see the tantrum. Kind of hate the game don't hate the player mentality. Or that's how I see it.

But who am I, I am just in the same boat as you. Trying to figure it out.