Chapter 3. Let the detachment begin

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Cherry: Thanks for your post.

Yes, I never would have thought W would have left S10. I initially thought he would be sad without mom. But, he is fine. He never asks about her, never wants to call her, etc. His behaviour is almost better - as he is just dealing with me, so no parental ping pong,

She wants to blame me for everything and that feeds her resolve. Her new friends, none of which know me or her kids are telling her that she can't be happy with me. A few of the local divorcee mums celebrate when another marriage ends and are thrilled to give her bad advice i.e. She is the mom, I should have left the house, the kids should go back and forth between two house, she should not support the house, etc.

I will continue to fill in the hole she left in our home. The house has not lost a beat. This is very anti DB but, I do enjoy it when she comes over and is "shaken" to see we are moving forward without her. Projects are getting done, my cooking/meal planning is getting rave revues and the kids seem to enjoy spending time with me and seeing me transform.

I don't know if she is emailing S15 - I don't look at his phone. I do see the emails she sends S10 - which he never checks. Those emails are focused on her.

As Sandi2 says for a W to leave her children and pets she has to be WW.