Huddy, I wasn't suggesting that you have a relationship talk w/your wife. In fact, it might bring her up short if you were to inquire about her health the next time you have a children's swap. It's not a real personal question because you can ask that of anyone you know or work with. Look her in the eye when you ask and watch her reaction. If it's a negative reaction, then don't ask again.
Sometimes we do temperature checks in the land of MLC and the question that I suggested could very well be a temperature check. Also, wishing her a nice day w/a smile and a wave of the hand is another way to check her temperature.
BTW, I have been to Scotland several times and have enjoyed myself. I was there a few years ago the wind was something else at St. Andrews. It's a beautiful country w/a lot of history and the people are very friendly and helpful.
Think about what I've suggested and maybe you will come up w/something more to your liking and can use it when the time is right.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
