It's just that, as Cadet notes, SO MANY of us move on mentally before the 9-12mos elapses and when the W starts to show interest again (as long as we keep working) we've become the WAS.
Where exactly did Cadet say it takes 9 to 12 months for WAS/WW to show interest again?
I don't mean to get too hung up on a number, as I'm sure it varies greatly from one situation to another, but, it's still interesting to have some estimate...
Thanks.
I cant tell you where, but I know I read that same thing somewhere. Perhaps one of the initial HW posts.
albac - per your post, my S is almost 6 months of and I confronted A twice. I have wondered - is it 9 to 12 months since BD, or since S? No idea. Also, as I recall reading that 9-12 month thing, if I remember context correctly, it wasn't about the WAS noticing she is a disaster as much as a "you should" put in at least that amount of time before you expect to see anything.
"There is no more important fight than the one for ourselves. Keep on winning." Ginger1, Read her newbies. BD: Feb '16 D: Mar '17 Piecing: Putting the self back together was my piecing. S6