RSG - Every single thing you said above is correct. Flawless victory with your words.
My response to her chronic perimenopause/stress/fatigue/time management issues has been identical to yours; S4 needs a healthy mom, sorry to hear that, hope it gets better. And like yours, this is not what she wants from me.

"Are you ok", "Why are you short/businesslike with me" "You seem different" - all of, same reply - I'm really busy right now.

Shared happiness is a goal, I fell happy on my own.

Yes, mine left too and that most assuredly was the best thing for "us" as individuals and I agree it offers a chance for the future. My heart bleeds for every man and woman here when I read about them co-living. I know this may work for some, may put them in a good spot even to work on it. I was not willing to live in the same place, with all her stuff there, sharing money, listening to her lie, and watch her come and go at will knowing full well what she was doing. Did not fit my personality to recover in that type of sitch. That's me anyway.

I also challenge myself to speak to people. and I was the NOT ME EVER guy myself. Not anymore, fat, thin, young, old, male, female. I engage them all. Works out sometimes for good stories.

I may grab my WW's ankles again at some point, but I promise it will not be while I am crying and begging her not to go. You know that's right.


"There is no more important fight than the one for ourselves. Keep on winning." Ginger1, Read her newbies.
BD: Feb '16
D: Mar '17
Piecing: Putting the self back together was my piecing.
S6