Maybs - Pt2

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Thanks guys. I'm still feeling pretty good today.
Last night my SIL contacted me to have dinner with her since she was in town.

She pretty much just wanted to check up on me and see how I was doing and talk to me about my W, which was fine.

She confirmed what I already knew, that W has been living with ow. honestly no surprise there, I had a feeling. The only thing about this that kind of irritates me is that she made such a big deal about how it "wasn't fair" for me to get to keep all 3 dogs and then I find out the 1 she did take she just ditched at her dads and isn't even around to take care of.....
She also said my W has been pretty much cutting anyone out that doesn't agree with what she's doing, again not much of a surprise.

She did ask me if I thought I would want to reconcile still and I said yes under the right circumstances and there would be a lot that would have to happen. And she asked me so I was honest with her about what W would need to say/do for that to happen.
She also mentioned that she too thinks there's going to be a time when W wants to R and she thinks this will pass...

There was one thing she said that I had never really thought about or realized until she said it but I'm glad she did. She said something along the lines of at some point in our relationship I took a back seat to my W and she basically got everything she wanted and I just went along with it and it kind of drowned out my personality. Thinking about it now I can totally see that. I feel like when all the health problems and stuff started I put myself on hold and focused 100% on my W because I was concerned about her health. When SIL said that I did say "I can see how that's true, but I would never let it happen again" And I mean it. I couldn't go back to that.

I also was honest with her and told her that I have been meeting with agencies to work on getting my fostering license, it's something I've always wanted to do and just because I'm "alone" now doesn't mean I shouldn't.

Overall, I think it went really well. I do miss my in law family and I'm glad that they continue to reach out to me and want to spend time with me and keep me in their lives.

SIL was very impressed with how well I'm doing and all the things I'm doing for myself. And is just another of the many people who have said "I don't want this to sound the wrong way, but you're handling yourself very well and I'm impressed with how you're getting your life together"

She did say that I could come visit my nieces anytime I wanted and I was always welcome for family dinners still. She also said she wasn't planning on mentioning to anyone that she had met with me just to avoid fighting, I don't know if she will say anything to the family or not and I don't care. I didn't go see her to get her to tell them how good I'm doing I went to see her because she's my family and I miss them all like crazy.

Guess that's all for now. Even with all the W talk last night I still feel really good and really detached. I don't really have any GAL activities planned for the weekend, it's supposed to be kind of rainy and gross all weekend so I think I will just relax around the house and get some stuff cleaned up and watch movies.

I did decide to go on a "date". Not as like "I'm looking for a relationship" but just to get out of the house and meet people and go out and do things and have some fun. And I was also honest with my SIL about that, I wasn't going to tell her but somehow it came up so I did.