Hi all. I am leaving the board as a poster and wanted to thank everyone for their invaluable support. I was lucky enough to get great advice from Mr Bond ( which I didn't follow but wish I had ) and I made a great many friends who supported me through many hard times. My M is over and I'm heading for a D ( my choice )
For any newbies reading this , it does get better , it's hard to imagine because at BD and for a long time after your world is in pieces and you can't accept that this is truly happening My advice is accept what is and move forward from there
Work on yourself but don't take blame for your partners failings If your on this board it's because you want / wanted to save your M and it is possible but it takes time and a huge amount of work. Follow the advice of the vets. No matter how unique your sitch might feel to you , the vets have seen similar before You came on to this board looking for hope and answers. Listen to their words because they know what they are talking about It will feel like the wrong thing sometimes but trust in the process
I'm as far from a vet as possible BUT I still have a few opinions to offer , be the best you at all times , always take the higher ground because karma is watching and when you look back in ten years time you will want to be able to have no regrets regardless of the outcome Your children come first , their lives need to be as stable and full of love as you can make them regardless of what's happening in yours Show them through actions how a parent deals with life , no matter what life throws at that parent Be the rock , always
I will keep an eye on my friends threads and you know who you are I've made friends with some outside the board and in many cases it was great to be part of your lives. Thank you from the bottom of my heart I wish you all the very very best in your continuing journeys , all of you deserve true happiness
