Realized that I am still living for and thru him. He was the love of my life and I never thot that would change and yet it has changed. I've changed too and not for the best parts of me. So this week I have to take better care of me, and figure out how I will live despite loss and chaos.
OK I think you are close to figuring this out and I am just giving you a nudge.
Living your life through another person is not healthy.