Huddy,
Welcome to our MLC forum! Posters will be coming along shortly to post to you.

Your wife appears to have some symptoms of MLC, i.e., dissatisfaction w/life, less affection, etc. However, her menopause could be part of the issue as well, i.e., it could very well be a combination of things that have met up and combined at the age of 50/51.

I would suggest that you continue to following Sandi's Rules, continue working on you, keeping the focus on you and your children and give her plenty of space and time. A year in the the life of a WAW or MLCer isn't very long. I know, to you, it is a long time...but it takes years for them to get where they are now and it will take some time for them to even begin to move forward and work on themselves. Let me ask you this...have you tried something different? We have a saying over here that if something isn't working, try something different. Think about this question and then we can discuss it further.

Huddy, please take care of yourself. Your children are looking to you to be their support system, i.e., for now, both parents.

Keep posting!

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