If you don't want to look through all 19 threads, I'm basically a 44 year old man, who's 51 year old W has decided to S. Usual stuff about 'not being attracted' etc. with a BD in April 2015.
I've moved on here, because I think my W is having a MLC, but it doesn't seem to fit any of the descriptions I've read. My W started behaving oddly at the start of her menopause. She started to lose attraction to me and started to show less and less affection. I always reassured her and felt I was supportive.
She became a WAW and wanted to run away to her parents etc. and we finally S (out of house) in December 2015. Since then she has played all the emotional tricks she can and in July this year, she had a tummy tuck operation. After having three kids, my W lost all her baby weight, but I was never bothered about it, she always looked sexy to me!
So this is where I'm stuck; well, we're stuck. I have been DB'ing, in one form or another since May 2015. Whilst I now feel stronger and better, W appears to be none the better. I am trying to understand her, without her knowing, as the kids are now asking searching questions and it is hurting them. My D regularly tells me how much she loves me and I'm worried she feels the S is her fault etc. My S is autistic, so can't readily express his feelings, but will constantly ask for Mummy, and will do the opposite when with my W. My SD is now 21 and was hoping after her tummy tuck, that W would talk to me. She even asked W to do that (without my knowledge) and was assured by W she would because she hasn't been 'thinking properly'. But to no avail, and I'm not willing to do the R thing. W has to want to do this on her own.
So, I just can't tell if it is a MLC. If it is, do I do anything differently? Just after some thoughts, as I'm getting on really well now (emotionally/mentally), but it grates when I see the kids getting edgy.
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
