Albac broken but pushing forward

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albac - I had not read your sitch in two days and doing so tonight reminds me as to how much confusion we are all in in as things move like shorelines. PS buddy, I am not sure what your handle stands for, but I wish it started with a capital "A"- you have earned a capital letter for your handle.

Man, so what did I get in here?, so far behind, read so much. I think first and foremost, the dudes here who have some W's who left us should stop putting so much pressure on Sandi. To me, Sandi is a free will individual w/ her own opinions. She has choice whether to comment or not to. The fact that she has been on this board, basically repeating the same message towards individual situations speaks very highly of her character and her faith in this forums ability to assist others. Lets not mistake her generosity of time with being an on call nurse.

Next, great work on not doing the family stuff "together". Being in the physical presence of a human you created and the person who helped you create that person does not make you a family. Good work, i found this one hard to let go of, you do too, but my dear sir albec, you have held the line.

Of course you are reading too deep into things, entire nature of what things are = confusion. Hold your line sir.

Next and here comes an empowerment speech gentlemen:

It is bleak, and I think the right balance is hard to arrive at.

But I think we LBS need to keep in mind that ...

A) Our WW/MLC has chosen to put their short-term emotional needs above the needs of the children and the LBS. They are choosing to take away 50% or more of our access to your children. We WILL BE FORCED TO MISS 50% of our kids' remaining childhood. And our children will suffer some sort of effect/trauma from witnessing what they thought was a rock solid basis of their lives -- the family unit -- split up.
B) Our WW/MLC -- despite however many years of affection, kisses, hugs, and sex -- has rejected us as a romantic/sexual partner.
C) Our WW/MLC is having or will have a romantic/sexual relationship with someone else, despite whatever type of commitment she made when getting married.
Now, does that make me want to treat her with some respect like some mature adult? Hell no.
I think most of us LBS's err on the wrong side. We need to meditate on the above facts and err on the other side. At least that's what I'm trying to do.

Nothing is bleak! ForGump, dump that thought. - the future is fking as bright and shiny as the time I choose to wake up tomorrow (which for me is 6am on weekends regardless of the time I lay down).

"But I think we LBS need to"...., bllllllllllllllllssssshhhhhhhhhhtttttttt.........ahhhhhh!!!!!!!!....What I think is that the acronym LBS needs to die a quick death for anyone here longer than 1 month. I am no longer an LBS. I have freed myself from that thought and would suggest all of you do too - and as soon as possible. I am not left behind. That is a bullsht definition for anyone who wants pity. She is getting left behind each moment I get stronger via my 180/ GAL power.

Also,
I will not be forced to miss sht about my child if I do not want to. This is such bull [censored] I will leave it be. But let me say this...I was born a warrior and my son's future will not be dictated. to nominal social fights