Re BMI, I ran my height, age and weight through a calculator on the internet, and it said 81% of men with those measures weigh more than me. So that's good, I think. Looking better helps counter the self-image problems inherent in being told I'm not attractive, at least a little.
Me: 46 W: 44 Married: 17 Together 21 D13; S10 BD: 03.03.15 (Not attracted to you) Almost 2 years trying, alone, to save marriage Status now: Divorced (effective 06.13.17)