Newby here, desperate for some advice (thread 2)

[JRuss]

Re divorce and children, I always come back to the risk of bad things happening to them. Sure, they may do ok or even well. Some do. But they might not, and that's even if both spouses can pull great co-parenting off, which is hard given all of the anger that's in these sitches.

I had the thought once that if you sit your toddler down in the middle of the street, they might might happily evade all oncoming traffic and crawl or toddle over to the grass and keep on playing. But they might get run over. Even a WW knows this and wouldn't endanger their child in that way. But, somehow the risk of mental/emotional harm from a blown up family is tossed off as not something that need not be cause for worry or give pause. I finally just decided I can't ever understand what's happening in her head, at least on this point.