Still an Awkward Situation

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Please respond to sandi after thoughtful and careful meditation of her question.

You continue to ask questions and for advice that you seem to not want the honest answers for. You seem hell bent on doing what you FEEL is right and you continue to place your feelings and reasonings on others, whether it be your kids or other members of the family.
Why is this?
Do you FEEL that if you "Nice Guy" your way through this, all will be well.
As I read your story I see an Ostrich with its head in the sand.

I see a person with an infected wound that thinks if they just leave the bandage over the disgusting injury that the infection will just go away and not spread.

I see a person with an emotional cancer illness that is refusing treatment and just hoping it will not spread, while it continues to spread.

I see a LBS in a most difficult situation caused by a WW that is holding you hostage whether knowingly or not, but will never respect you because your decisions while with Nobel intentions actually appear weak to anyone else from the outside.

I have followed your sitch and felt the pain as I read to the very complicated details, but I see that more pain is going to come of it, as you are avoiding the needed treatment and actions to stop the bleeding for everyone that it touches.

I am not sharing at this point to make you feel bad, nor to try and convince you of what to do, I share , because it is painful to watch and see how desperately so many folks that are seeing this from the outside and have experience and knowledge first hand of things that one should do to survive what you are going through, yet you turn away the suggestion for treatment.
To this I say, pull your head out and stop doing what you FEEL is right, and do what is RIGHT for yourself, for your children, and for all the other family members involved in this not so appropriate sitch.
Good luck to you Tate. It is going to take some very counter intuitive actions on your part if you hope to survive this as well as to protect your family.