Detaching.....nearly there..

[Cherry]

This was the last ow that did that. Not this one. But still, it hurt- because I didn't need to see these things. This was when he made a decision to return to the m, and she very much was the woman scorned and did not want to stop until she had tried to ruin things so he had nothing. Then, he told me how he admired how during his a I was focused on being a good mom.

I guess there is a chance that he feels a little like he isn't needed. But idk. He has admitted to having depression and gets the feeling to self harm. However when I suggested he saw a ic to talk about this- he flew of the handle and said he wasn't crazy and the way he felt had nothing to do with the m.

It sounds like db-ing is really helping you. I'm glad to hear you becoming the best you you can be. And that is the hope really, although having no expectations, the hope is that wherever they go, their problems are still there. In the meantime, we are just distant and being the best us we can be. The best feeling is when it feels like the roles have reversed. No longer are we the sad looking spouse, but they are. And they Q where we are going and what are we doing. If nothing else, dbing helps us to find ourselves and save our sanity.