Thanks for offering your perspectives on what you view as WAS, WW, and MLC.
For me, I speak from experience as a former MLCer and helped a lot of posters over in the MLC forum. Not all MLCers have OW/OM. The vast majority of them do because they feel dead inside the M and seek outside sources as a way to find "happiness" when in reality it comes from within all along. It took me a few years to really recognize my own MLC, come to terms with my journey into the MLC abyss, and forgive myself for whatever perceived 'mistakes' I have made throughout the journey.
Please understand that MLC is not on any of the APA or DSM-VI list of 'disorders' because many of the psychologists, often, either dismiss them as pure fiction that those people come up to with to evade personal responsibility or do not support the existence of MLC. It took one guy who actually went through his own MLC and wrote a book on his own experiences.
Now as for the WW label that is being used in recent time, full credit must go to Sandi for coining the term to differentiate from a WAS. Many WASes DO have A's and there have been some WASes who did not engage in an A although that is a rarity here in the DB forums. The key point that Sandi wants to drive through the many poor LBHs who stumble around here when dealing with a WW is their wayward mindset that is filled with true contempt for their LBHs. So both WW and a WAS (regardless if it is a female or male) can engage in As....however, the operative word is the "mindset." Sandi is really helpful in decoding the mind of a WW to LBHs here for she does speak the language as a former WW.
On the other hand, I can pretty much decode the mind of a MLCer and a WAH. Some DBers probably can attest that I have supported many LBW with a WAH because I can (and) do think like a man. Many other DBers have contributed as well by sharing their experiences and wisdom.
This ^^^ is why I stake my own claim that a WW-MLCer cannot co-exist based on my own personal experience and from hanging out at the MLC pool (aka forum) over the past 10 years or so. No, I have "not forgotten more about DB" at all.
Originally Posted By: CT1118
As I understand, WW is a term assigned to indicative behavior for a person who has left their partner to become involved in a non-marital relationship w/ another - WAW is a term assigned to indicative behavior for a person who has left their partner for reasons homogeneous to that specific relationship alone.
WAW/WAS do leave the M for their AP. It is not an exclusive domain of the WW. Again, I point you to Sandi's view of what constitutes a WW: wayward mindset filled with near complete contempt and disrespect for the LBH [emphasis is mine]. These are outwardly manifested actions through raging, deliberate manipulation of the LBH's emotions to get what they want, and behaving & speaking in disrespectful ways.
Originally Posted By: CT1118
MLC is a medically classified brain disorder incumbent to the way some human brains process the natural human life sequence of reaching an understood point between birth and death which may include a gambit of symptoms that could or could not mimic those attributes associated with what we know here as WAW and/or WW.
How do you know this? What 'medical' sources can support that ^^ statement/assertion?
For me, I am very much inclined to agree to a MLC-WAW pairing than MLC-WW pairing due to the attendant factors of the individual's mindset as explained in this current post and my earlier post.
Once again, I stress that MLC is not/has not been officially recognized as a so-called "medical disorder."
Perhaps Cadet or Job could post links to my threads titled "Informal Poll on MLC" and "A Voyage Into the Mind of MLC" (the first thread) that, hopefully, will give readers a much more broader understanding of the MLC mind.
Thank you for the thoughtful points, CT. This is a great learning process for all of us...I am still learning from you and others. Thank you for sharing.
