Maybe at some point I'll summarize things again, but here's my first thread, in case anyone wants to see what a train wreck I was early on in this whole journey. I've come quite a long way in the meantime, the rope is dropped, there's been no contact with WH since April. There are various legal things slowly churning below the surface, but it is early days for that process despite the fact that WH filed some long time ago.
Anywho, It's been a crazy week. I hiked a great trail with waterfalls and played in the water, I FINALLY finished my financial paperwork (WAHOO!!!), and today I spent the entire day on a scenic railroad excursion and walking around a quaint mountain town with my Mom and Aunt. Earlier in the week I biked, I rode along on a boat while a friend water-skied, I walked in a park, I went swimming, I had dinners out with friends, I had yet another brush with some aggressive process servers, and tomorrow I am getting together with R-friend again (who seems to have seen the light that she may have gone a bit overboard when she sent me that Dear John-type email). Monday I saw my therapist and Tuesday evening I went to a beekeeper's meeting/picnic with a woman I have known for years and recently reconnected with and volunteered to staff the beekeepers' booth with her at the local fair later this month. Wednesday night I went to another BAN meeting. I've been in contact with my local lawyer and spent plenty of time with my l-friend. Yesterday I visited with a couple of other women I've known for a long time, too. They dropped by to visit, and I was happy to see them.
Soooooo... altogether it's been bit too much, but I've had lots of contact with lots of terrific people - parents, neighbors, old friends, new friends, people with similar interests and hobbies, and I even found time to do a whole lot of ugly paperwork and still care for all of my funny critters. AND I have definitely decided to get my own bees going in the spring, so I'm gong to be doing a lot of learning int he meanwhile and going to more bee meetings. Another thing in my life that has NOTHING to do with WH. I like that.
Now I just need a long nap.
I just want to sit home for a while now, but tomorrow is not going to be the day for that quite yet. I am meeting R-friend of lunch, and then I am going to try to get in to see my GP because I have been feeling ill in strange ways lately and am worried that I may have gotten Lyme disease again. (Yeah.) I found a strange solid, non-raised red rash on Tuesday that has since almost gone away, but one I had no idea that I even had, nor how long it might have been there - it didn't burn, itch, hurt, anything whatsoever. It was very strange and dark and I found it incidentally. i was dumb and put steroid cream on it...
Today while I was busy with my train adventure, I felt like I had a fever, had a vague headache, and my neck and the skin on my entire thorax felt bruised. I had to ask my mom and aunt if we could just sit down somewhere for a little while. My throat feels strangely tender, but not sore. Actually, I feel kind of vaguely sore all over the place, and joints in my fingers are acting up. I've been having weird symptoms for about 3 weeks now. They're not drastic, but a bunch of small things that have my spider-senses on alert, including severe night sweats 3-5 nights per week. Maybe that's due to the Prozac, or maybe it's something else. I hate to add any more events to my schedule, but it's probably time to get this checked out. I want to talk to my doc about tapering my ADs anyway, so I have another reason to go in.
Beyond that, nothing much to report in the legal department. I still have yet to be served, despite the best efforts of a pair of real jerks two nights ago. I came home from my bee-keeper's meeting and stopped by my parents house to chat. I parked my car at my sleeping quarters and headed over to my parents' house. Not 5 minutes after I got there, my mom sees two guys with big flashlights poking around the dark guest house, walking around the back and up the outdoor attic stairs. It was 10 pm and they were super aggressive. My dad went out to see who they were and they demanded to know where I was, and that they had a court order to give me. Blah, blah. My father told them that he couldn't help them and forbid them from being on his property. They went the attitude route and asked him "or what?" Told him to go right ahead and call the police. What jerks!
When I got my WH served in the other state, I gave the servers written permission to be on my property in order to do their job. These guys had no such permission, as my parents are the house owners, NOT my WH, yet they were acting like they owned the damn place, shining lights all over and walking around behind the house. My dad was not pleased. I just so happened to not be in the guest house at that time, so I got lucky once again. At this point my l-friend is telling me to avoid being served as long as possible. WH's response clock is ticking rapidly toward his deadline, whereas mine has yet to even start. I am in a stronger position. Of course, WH's L has made no contact overtures after that one time almost 3 weeks ago now right after he was served. Ugh. Th peace is glacial.
Anyway, I need to hit the hay here, and PDQ. I hope to get some more journaling done here soon. Good night everyone!
H: 44, Me: 45 Married: 20 y Together: 25 y no kids Walk away: 12/15 Asked for temp separation 12/25/15 PA confirmed 3/16 (apparently neither the first, nor the last PA he has had) H filed for D 5/16
