Hi Gump, did she end her EA? I'm no expert and I am sure Sandi would have her thoughts on this but do you think at the moment (and sorry if I sound harsh) she is mourning the EA that is why she is still on the path to D?
It's not harsh -- but I need harsh right now to stay on track, to stay strong.
The two EA's noted in my sig were w/ the same guy and both were delusional, one-sided infatuations. Although they were one-sided fantasies, they were emotionally full-blown infatuations. Anyhow, those particular EA ended.
Judging by her secretiveness w/ her computer use and cell phone use, I think there is another EA or a PA. I think a PA is somewhat unlikely but I don't want to be so naive to say it's not possible. If a PA, it was/is one-evening type of stuff, not repeated. I have not snooped so I don't know anything.
The EA's gave my W a taste of what romantic/sexual excitement is like outside of our boring marriage, so I think that's what drives her to pursue a D.
Me: 50, MLC/WW 45 Young kids Nov 2015: BD1 Apr 2016: BD2 Jan 2017: W filed Feb 2017: D final
