Albac broken but pushing forward

[ForGump]

It is bleak, and I think the right balance is hard to arrive at.

But I think we LBS need to keep in mind that ...

A) Our WW/MLC has chosen to put their short-term emotional needs above the needs of the children and the LBS. They are choosing to take away 50% or more of our access to your children. We WILL BE FORCED TO MISS 50% of our kids' remaining childhood. And our children will suffer some sort of effect/trauma from witnessing what they thought was a rock solid basis of their lives -- the family unit -- split up.

B) Our WW/MLC -- despite however many years of affection, kisses, hugs, and sex -- has rejected us as a romantic/sexual partner.

C) Our WW/MLC is having or will have a romantic/sexual relationship with someone else, despite whatever type of commitment she made when getting married.

Now, does that make me want to treat her with some respect like some mature adult? Hell no.

I think most of us LBS's err on the wrong side. We need to meditate on the above facts and err on the other side. At least that's what I'm trying to do.