You know, I could actually understand the conflict of having your child in your professional work environment. I don't think that makes her a mediocre mom. When you have so many kids vying for your attention, it is conflicting and hard to balance giving your own flesh and blood attention. I get it.
You use the term "mediocre mom" a lot. Just an observation.
But I have got to say, she should be taking him overnight. Instead of sending him with you, expecting detailed updates, injecting her opinion on what you should be doing and who you should be calling while she goes to the gym every night. This is cake eating. And yeah, it's sad she doesn't want her son overnight. My ex tried to give up his weeknight with our D and told him no. It was "stressful" for him. And he has a wife there who takes care of the morning routine with drop off. I mainly said no because it would hurt out daughter.
So, is this your long term plan for child custody? You do all the work because it's easier for you, rather than her, she parents from afar while you give her detailed updates all the time and make the calls and do what she says?
No decisions need to be made now, but you really should think about this dynamic and how long you can parent like this for, because I think it might be taking a toll on you.
