It's not easy we all know that. I can't imagine what it would be like to be in house separated, as my W left the day after she told me she had enough.
Seeing my W even now makes things so much harder! I haven't seen or spoken to W in 2 days and it has been the most peaceful I have felt in a long time.
NC is helping me so much and I THINK it is having an effect on my W she is still trying to instigate contact daily and I ignore it.
Your W doesn't sound sure about what she wants. Mine knew she wanted out and she left straight away. I just don't know what goes through the head of someone who says they want out but stays. I didn't see any of the signs that my W was distancing herself and gearing up for separation.
It's such a hard situation for you but everything you are doing and saying I think is the best you can do. Keep it up Gump just show her you are the happy independent man only a fool would leave and hide the broken empty inside that we are all feeling. If anything feels fake I find it helps to think about things that make me truly believe what I'm doing.
Like I feel bad going NC because I love her and I know that. So I think in my head she doesn't love me and wants someone else. That makes it so much easier for me to not want to speak to her, because in my head I picture a women that is being fake to me in trying to get my attention to make her feel better. I'm never angry , mean or show that I'm hurting I just keep it short and sweet all smiles but always get away as fast as I can.
Stay strong Gump.
ME- 31 W-25 T-5 M-3 D2 ILYBNILWY and moved out - FEB16 W seeing someone else - JUL16
