Maybs - Pt2

[Cristy]

Hello Maybs,

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[maybs]

LOL the "you don't listen" thing kills me every time... I am listening! I hear exactly what you're saying, you just don't want to hear what I'm saying!

I'd really work on validating her and not share your stuff at the minute. Until she feels understood, she's not likely to want to listen to you.

Buxom, I do not say that to her. I do validate her feelings but in my head it is very frustrating sometimes because it feels hypocritical on her part.

I would like to reiterate. I do NOT say that to her.

[Buxom]

Good, that wasn't clear. I do believe that our anxieties and frustrations can be felt and sensed by others, esp those who know us well.
Look after yourself.

[maybs]

Update: nothing new to report here. We haven't talked anymore since yesterday, which is fine. I'm back to being dark. I'm not initiating and will only be responding on important, necessary things.

In other news sometimes I feel bad for even complaining about my sitch with my friend. Fundamentally our situations are very similar but the details of the 2 are completely different. Hers is much more complicated and and f*cked up....so while it is nice 95% of the time to have someone to talk to sometimes i feel guilty when I have to tell her things that seem super mundane by comparison... I know she doesn't feel that way, it's just me.

Anyways, hope everyone has a good day today! Keep DBing!

[hawker]

It's ok to talk to your friend, you can vent to each other. . One of my friends is going through the same issue plus a lot of other things as well and it helps to encourage one another!

[maybs]

Ironically, almost immediately after posting that there was no update W texted me to ask me about something that I know she could figure out on her own if she gave it even a little bit of effort. I responded after a while to give her the simple answer to the question, she continued to text me and I just didn't respond.

3rd day in a row she has contacted me after 3 weeks of not speaking... I would say that being dark worked. I'm still not initiating contact and I only respond to her when absolutely necessary and am very careful to not seem over eager or give too many details.

I know it's okay to talk to her. If I couldn't I would probably drive myself crazy with all the things floating around my head. She tells me like it is and I appreciate that about her.

[maybs]

So far this week has actually been a pretty good week. I am feeling much better about everything than I was over the weekend.

I feel like this weird envelope of calmness has overcome me. I just feel so at peace with everything. I don't feel upset, angry, sad, or anything I just feel like everything is okay and everything will be okay. It's nice to just feel like I can live in the moment and not really worry about everything a ton.

[lfm]

Good for you maybs, sounds like your in a good place right now!

[maybs]

Thanks lfm! I feel like I'm in a good place right now! hopefully it lasts!

[hawker]

Good job maybs!! hope you had a good night!