Keep Wearing Wedding Band? [Thread #2]

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Hopefully our W's will realize what they have destroyed and want to make it work...

That is a really alluring thought, and I still wish that to some degree. But there is also a somewhat different wish: I hope my W will get to a mentally and emotionally healthy place. And from that healthy place, she will still see me, and that I will be a healthy, attractive person to her.
Probably too much to wish for...

FG - that's a completely honest and altruistic wish, why would it be too much? I don't know if I would use the word 'wish', but what you said is certainly something I would prefer. But the premise is that WW is a mother to my S4 and I want her to be healthy if for no other reason than him. I would like to a part of it, but if I can be, I can know he is in good hands w/out me.
Stay strong my brother.

(((Gump))), I think I've heard it said here so many times but we don't want our old marriage back anyway and that's what I keep telling myself. This is a chance for a brand new relationship to build from the foundation up. Get rid if all those crumbling bricks of your old marriage this is what we are all aiming for.

It could just be a symptom of going dark as I actually feel like some sort of drug addict having withdrawal symptoms (never taken drugs so not sure if I am just trivialising how withdrawal feels!). ! I know that's probably considered as codependency but it's so damn hard to shake it off....

Coly23 - that's right, the old marriages were bad, new ones are needed. The morning WW and I decided to separate I told her one thing was for certain, "our old marriage is dead".

I have taken a whole lot of drugs in my life and am now quite sober from them. Sadly, it took WW's A & our S to get me there, but silver linings right? Anyway I digress, your statement is not trivial, it's true. Today was my first NC day w/ WW and a vast majority of the day I was quite happy about it, but there were brief interludes where my mind was full on wanting to contact - things is, I have not initiated a day's contact since late April I believe. That's addiction works, any kind, you get to where days are better than they were, but sometimes a little devil plops on your shoulder and says, "what if you just..."