Keep Wearing Wedding Band? [Thread #2]

[Coly23]

(((Gump))), I think I've heard it said here so many times but we don't want our old marriage back anyway and that's what I keep telling myself. This is a chance for a brand new relationship to build from the foundation up. Get rid if all those crumbling bricks of your old marriage this is what we are all aiming for.

I must say although you end on a negative the start of your post does sound quite positive, especially if she is noticing the changes. If she is like me she might be a bit stubborn and so it may take a while for her to admit those positive changes are making a difference and maybe that's why she is ploughing on with D.

I wish I had your strength to carry on with all GAL activities, at the moment I'm struggling with it all and instead of it getting better I think I'm getting worse (my stubbornness coming out again!). It could just be a symptom of going dark as I actually feel like some sort of drug addict having withdrawal symptoms (never taken drugs so not sure if I am just trivialising how withdrawal feels!). ! I know that's probably considered as codependency but it's so damn hard to shake it off....

Keep doing what you are doing because you seem to be getting some small results. As they say baby steps....